Tuesday, 27 August 2019

How About Replacing Worry With Actions?



One of my favourite spot in campus was the centre of the rugby pitch.Saturday and Sunday were the most quiet days in campus.The environment was relaxed and the breeze was cool.On a Sunday after church,I could go take lunch and at around 1500 hrs,I would go sit down in a lotus position like one doing yoga meditation.My mind would start wandering into the issues of life.The biggest questions would be;

What will my future look like?
Will I be successful in  by all standards?
Why am I still in this world?
Was I born to become part of the statistics and just go?
Who will I marry?
Will I be able to go to heights I've seen other people go?
Will I afford decent life? A car? A home? Good education for my kids?
I usually left that spot with more questions than answers.

At times I just lay there and just forget the many questions about life.But then again they never ended,they kept on ring in my heart.I just had to find a solution.A solution I did not know where I would start.Some times, I would wish  I was born with a silver spoon in my mouth that I did not have to worry of what will  happen to my future.Especially in terms of financial provision.Do I have to toil so much that I will be able to provide for my rent,food and securing financial future of my future family?
The more I neared clearing school, the more worried I became.The more worried I became, the more worried I continued to be,the more helpless the situation became.

Fast forward.
In my cup right now, some of the questions I was worried about five years ago, have been answered. In fact, I wonder why I was worried. Right now, though, I have realized something. The questions I worried then have build up into something different. For instance, the question who I will marry; I already know who I will marry, but the questions now are; how will our marriage be? will I be a good husband? will we be happy?

Life happens in phases. At any phase there will still be more questions than the answers available. Nonetheless, choose one thing, not to be worried even a second. For what you  are worried now will cease to be an issue tomorrow. Just edge an action plan and stay focused to it. A milestone at a time.











The Fearless.





I used to spend time and play with kids in my boyhood.Even now I still do.Kids are just amazing.
Especially when they are in a certain age where everything seems impossible.A lot runs my mind when you listen to their questions and the things they ask you to do.

Their dad is the strongest man they know.
They have to fight to get what they want by all means through sheer persistence.
They ask anything,anywhere,anyhow.
They dare try new things.They explore.
They learn quickly and adapt super fast.
...

I wonder, where did kid fearlessness go?
Do I have to be scared and wonder what other people had to say about me?
Why can't I speak out my heart the way a kid does,honestly and openly?
Can't I pursue the music in my heart without being the crowd drowning it?
Where did the aggression go? Can't I play the game of life boldly?
When will I break off the barriers and go for what is in my heart?
Why can't I see possibility in everything instead of impossibilities?

Is it not better to try and fail than fail to try?
Is it not better  to ask and the answer is 'no'  than assume the answer has already been set?
If I don't stand up for what I want in life who will?
If I don't adapt and learn quickly in the ever changing world,am I not waiting for my extinction?
What is holding me back?


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