Gentlemen Need this...Ladies Require too.

Sometimes back the concept of tall,dark,rough and handsome was very popular among ladies,whereas the figure eight was the,'wa-wa-wa' among men.It was a narrow perspective towards hooking up with ones partner but times have changed.The celebrities were hailed and everyone wished they were their fiance',but we all know how their  lives are behind the scenes and we dread it.Men were the providers of the house,but we live in a world where your woman could be earning more than you and retrenchment is a common scenario.Emphasis on equality places us almost on the same level.

The enormous question is where has the focus shifted too?

Young informed people are no longer viewing life from a 1D perspective but rather,in fact,they are only limited by 3D,they could dissect their partners to-be even further.When we realize that life has more than what we can see and feel,we get critical and approach it from a  wider angle.The earlier we realize this the better.

So what are we supposed to be looking for(both Ladies and gentlemen) from our partners.

1.Mental Maturity.
Nobody want to stay with a person who is just  'yes-yes '..but can question my thought in a reasonable way,so as we can have leverage and synergy.Whenever we stay,even in normal interactions,with people who are just accepting what we offer,what value is being added to you and you already know what you are telling them?. They should be able to critically and analytically think and come up with solutions to problems.Simply because everyone is doing it does not mean is right,it may not apply to our situation.Let's expand our thinking capacity so as we can be of help to our partners,a popular theory suggests that on average most human being use 3-10% of their brain,this is a serious joke,I wonder what the rest we keep like inventory,is for.

2.Spiritual Maturity
Human beings are spiritual beings in human form,and therefore if the spiritual person is not there there is danger of having a numb or dead conscience.Hope no one will complain of irresponsible drinking if you met your partner in a bar or complain of adultery if you one in a multiple of concurrent relationship they were having and you were aware,The  spiritual well being is key to sustain a healthy relationship.

3.Financial Maturity
I'm sure bills will not be paid with hugs and kisses and therefore it calls for stretching our muscle to earn extra coin to sustain a decent lifestyle.

4.Emotional Maturity.
Emotional maturity is when a person has come of age in their feelings. They do not let their emotions run away with them. They can process things that happen in life, deal with them and go on. They are level headed and do not make rash decisions.

5. Social Maturity
This is being able to relate healthily with others and not just being individualistic and living in an island of our own.It's opening up our mind to learn from others too while we choose what to accommodate or disassociate with in a nice and reasonable manner.

6.Physical Maturity.
This is the least in my opinion,..this is where the tall,dark,rough and handsome falls,..the, 'wa-wa-wa' lady is.It's usually very weird for one to be 6-pack,advanced in age,physically beautiful but when they open their mouth you wish they had kept quiet.It's crucial to be physically attractive but it should not be hailed over the other key maturities that matter most since beauty easily fades.

...Made All the Difference.

I like listening to other people's perspective towards different issues in life. I get inspired when several people confirm and commend my choices. I feel bad and empathetic to listen to the ill choices that others made but I get inspired not to dare make wrong ones.

We are who we are by the choices we make and have made, I could have chosen to watch a documentary and keep the little I know about choices. The famous, "choices have consequences" slogan is very true, though those that coined this made it sound like the consequences were to be detrimental, get over that context. The consequences of our choices will either be positive or negative.

Before making a choice I consider the following;

Ø Is it in harmony with my beliefs?

Ø Will it give the desired results?

Ø What will be the worst case scenario?

If the answer to any of the questions above has doubts, I have to rethink of alternatives.

A t times, if not most of the time, a choice can even mean taking a path less taken, like one of my lecturers said, ’When everyone is going east try west’  

Robert Frost poem,’The Road Not Taken’ sums it up on making a bold move that many opt not .Whether others approve of it or not, It could be the best choice you’ve ever made.

TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood,

And sorry I could not travel both

And be one traveler, long I stood

And looked down one as far as I could

To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,

And having perhaps the better claim,

Because it was grassy and wanted wear;

Though as for that the passing there

Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay

In leaves no step had trodden black.

Oh, I kept the first for another day!

Yet knowing how way leads on to way,

I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh

Somewhere ages and ages hence:

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I_

I took the one less traveled by,

And that has made all the difference.

Heaven's Grocery Store.

As I was walking down life's highway many years ago
I came upon a sign that read Heavens Grocery Store.
When I got a little closer the doors swung open wide
And when I came to myself I was standing inside.
I saw a host of angels. They were standing everywhere.
One handed me a basket and said "My child shop with care."
Everything a human needed was in that grocery store,
And what you could not carry you could come back for more,
First I got some Patience.
Love was in that same row.
Further down was Understanding,
you need that everywhere you go.
I got a box or two of Wisdom and Faith a bag or two.
And Charity of course I would need some of that too.
I couldn't miss the Holy Ghost
It was all over the place.
And then some Strength and Courage
to help me run this race.
My basket was getting full
but I remembered I needed Grace,
And then I chose Salvation
for Salvation was for free
I tried to get enough of that to do for you and me.
Then I started to the counter to pay my grocery bill,
For I thought I had everything to do the Masters will.
As I went up the aisle I saw Prayer and put that in,
For I knew when I stepped outside I would run into sin.
Peace and Joy were plentiful, the last things on the shelf.
Song and Praise were hanging near so I just helped myself.
Then I said to the angel "Now how much do I owe?"
He smiled and said "Just take them everywhere you go."
Again I asked "Really now, How much do I owe?"
"My child" he said, "God paid your bill a long long time ago."

By:Justine-Arnon Cunanan Razon.

10 At A Glance.

1.Build Professional Brand
 What comes into your Mind when you hear Richard Branson,Wale Akinyemi,Nelson Mandela,Mc Donald Mariga, Katwa Kigen,...Whenever mentioned,you see their specialty(Who they are),their service(What they do),their audience(who they do it to),Their best characteristic(What they are known for)...that's a professional brand.
2.Discover a Strength
One cannot be a know it all,there areas one is stronger at,is passionate about and they achieve tremendously without much struggle.

3.Do a Time Diary
 Time as a resource is shared equally,yet others become more successful than others with time,track every minute.
4.Set a Goal
If one doesn't know where they are going,any place will be their destination.
Aim at something
5.Get a Mentor
Others have achieved what you want to do,they have trended the same path to easy your journey,ask,one may not live long enough to learn from his own mistake learn from others.
6.Read a Great Book
If there is something I've come to appreciate is reading a book.Just read materials of help ranging from Spiritual,Academic,Motivational,Lifestyle..but a word of caution should be taken to know the agenda of the writer,absorb what is necessary.
7.Start a Habit
'I started singing at Sunday school','I used to dismantle and assemble electronic gadgets','I used to ...'. These are common statement of people who developed a habit that turned out to be a career and an awesome lifestyle.It's too unfortunate we develop habits that end up ruining our lives.
8.Be Thankful.
Appreciate what God has done to your life.The privilege He has endowed us with,how many would have wished to be where we are but because of one reason or the other they haven't managed.Our Friends,family,strangers...
9.Find Your Why. 
I don't think we were just born to be here and go,there must be a specific reason why we were born,why we are in this setting,why we met them....Find it and leave it.
10.Leave an impact.
 They are people I meet for a first time,you like,like and like who they are.I mean nice people willing to go an extra mile for you without strings attached.'Ooh,what a world this could be if everyone was nice like you are'.