Who Is Your Friend?

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I listened to one Tom Makale,the CEO ,Unique Loos give his speech at (Business Entrepreneurship & Innovation ( BEI) conference at UoN,School of Business,I liked.He was drilling us to start thinking critically about life rather than the shadow perspective of life.

....One of the issues he brought out clearly are the people we need to connect ourselves with.We should connect with people who;
1.Are goal-oriented
This entails looking at how realistic and futuristic one is. Also looking at what they are doing now and assessing the course of their lives.They live a purpose driven life.Planning their lives carefully.

2.Bring the best in you
They are not jealous or dwell on the negative side of you but they show us we are equal top the task.They let our talents,abilities and skills sprout.Make us stand out

3.Support us
Not all the times things go well on our side.We need a shoulder to lean on and a helping hand.True connections always stand by our side in tough times.

4.Correct us.
When we go wrong,they don't just keep quiet or just take it lightly.They reprimand us in a gentle way.

5.Challenge us
If you are the best among the people close to you,there is a big reason to worry,you will never grow!
We should associate with people who are wise,adventurous and passionate of what they do.

6.Have Faith in God
If one doesn't believe in a super natural being,the creator of all.They are too full of themselves,that's danger in waiting keep them off your life.They should share the same value system with us.

Now,the  connections we have turn out to be our friends and as Rim John said:'We  are the average of the five people we spend most time with'.Very true,I don't see how one can join Barcelona and play long pass balls,reason being on average every player is doing the short tic-tac passes,total football.
Our network too becomes our net worth.

Random Thoughts I

• Harness Creativity

             -Look for unexpected Realities-Break the routine
             -Let the Mind wander by doing something undemanding.

• "Whatever that is chasing you determines the speed you will learnt at"-Unknown

• Prayers have the power to: Humble us,Work miracles,Get rid of carnal mind,Make our lives clear.

• ''Umuntu ngumutu ngabantu"-I am because you are,because we are.

• Small things done consistently have immense power.

• Everything that you are enjoying someone thought of it and made money from it.What are you thinking?

• Think what you can do that is different from everyone else. 

• Your Idea may not make sense to anyone else apart from you.

Love Was The Only Mistake.

They met in one of the most improbable places that can nurture emotional jitters.

But slowly they become close and close. I mean very close for one to call them friends was an understatement. They could feel their emotional indirect investment growing and the need for diversifying the portfolio of relating too was becoming eminent.

The dude paused,contemplated about the plans he had in  mind, the beauty and the dangers that lay ahead.His logic went like this;Bearing in mind I’m not looking for a lady to just have fun with but a life time partner,wants to settle in probably in the next five years, will I not be lying to commit?…He also had a spirit of adventure and loves to travel and as I know him, he can settle anywhere on this planet,settle with anyone as long as they share the same values system(but biased to Asians and Europeans).

The lady was irresistibly beautiful(physically,spiritually),socially okay,financially she has massive potential,mentally at her age she was good and looking for a  challenge.The only problem was  that emotionally she was ugly and needed plastic surgery or make up.

Whatever one can call it,Love/Infatuation/Lust is funny and confusing.The Lady was completely submerged into Museikuna’s way of life She loved with her all, felt accomplished,threatened how life is turning to be useless,’When I love it hurts,when I fail to love it hurts too’,she said.

Now the quagmire began, the two perceive love and care from  opposite direction.

One party is glad to have to have a sister and a friend while the other party is joyous to have a friend and a more than a friend.An equilibrium had to be reached.

It was a cool breezed afternoon,having been tired of their state they decided to work things out.It was a win-win situation,with no heart aches they decided to be best of friends without attaching or committing strings to each other.They are now free to make any decision pertaining their relationship life.

I wish them well and congratulate them.

At times we find ourselves in such a crisis-cross, maybe the people we want to be in our lives are not ready,are not interested with our request,are not sure if they really want us in their lives,are interested but interested more in others than us,have duo interests…and all manner of confusion.Kenny Rogers in his gambler song says:..You got to know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em,
Know when to walk away and know when to run... knowin' what to throw away and knowing what to keep..

This demands wisdom and discernment there are life issues we should not fable around with.

Find,Pursue & Live It

Every morning in Africa a gazelle wakes up.It knows it must outrun the fastest lion or it will be eaten.Every morning in Africa a lion wakes up too.It knows that it must outrun the slowest gazelle or it will starve to death.It doesn't matter whether you are a lion or a gazelle,when the sun comes up you'd better be running-Wale Akinyemi.

I've always admired people who found their callings and passions early in life.I've searched and keep on searching that thing that will give me immense satisfaction whether it is earning for me money or not.I know money motivates but I believe there are other ways one can make money while pursuing what one loves most.It beats me for people to live unhappily in a job you don't love in the name of I have bills to pay.
I've decided to suffer for my passions.All I want is peace of mind,contentment and joy.

I shared with a friend of how if one finds it fun and satisfying to be with kids why should they not give it a trial of working in an environment which has kids.I can only imagine what would have happened if Messi was using his legs to roam around in offices as an accountant.I can only Imagine what would Reuben Kigame be doing with his voice if not singing.I can only imagine what would  a passionate primary school teacher be doing if not teaching,what of PLO Lumumba, Martin Luther Kings Jnr,...What of you and me,if we shall be doing........ and not.........

All we need to do is find,pursue and live it.
Allison Ottawa identifies several things that can hint direction of one calling:
-Dreams and signs:The subconscious mind can be used to direct direction.
-Prioritize in expressing yourself in whatever you find enjoyable.
-Think about what you used to love when you were a kid
-Pay attention to what keeps coming.
-Shake up your routine and try out things.

It 's worth noting too that  we should be conscious of the things we naturally do without struggling(talents) and the people we admire.Also forget not to PRAY so as the passions are aligned with the Creator's will.
And as the lion and gazelle run,they run in the direction their instincts guide them.We also need to be on the move,but in the right direction of course.
Find ,Pursue & Live thy Purpose.