How to tell you are becoming lazy.

Laziness is a complicated and multifaceted trait that impacts more than a few elements of an individual's life, hindering private growth, productivity, and ordinary success. While every person experiences moments of fatigue or a wish to take a break, persistent laziness is characterized by using awesome features and behaviors that can have far-reaching consequences. In this article, we will delve into the key traits that outline a lazy character and discover the effect of these behaviors on their lives.

Procrastination: The Art of Delaying; One of the most recognizable signs and symptoms of laziness is procrastination. Lazy folks have a tendency to put off duties and obligations till the remaining feasible moment. This conduct regularly stems from a want to keep away from effort or discomfort, main to a cycle of stress and rushed work that can compromise the first-rate of their output.

Excuse-Making: Evading Accountability; Lazy folks regularly hotel to making excuses as a capability of keeping off responsibility. These excuses can vary from blaming exterior elements to downplaying their personal capabilities. This sample no longer solely hinders private boom however additionally damages relationships and undermines trust.

Sympathy Seeking: The Attention Trap; Seeking sympathy is some other way that lazy humans appear in their behavior. By portraying themselves as victims of circumstances, they garner interest and sympathy from others, which can fortify their feeling of entitlement and discourage them from taking proactive steps to enhance their situation.

Entitlement Mentality: Unrealistic Expectations; An entitlement mentality is carefully linked to laziness. Those who possess this attitude accept as true that they deserve rewards, success, or privileges barring placing in the fundamental effort. This unrealistic expectation can lead to a lack of motivation to work tough or try for excellence.

Living in Fantasy: Escaping Reality; Lazy persons regularly immerse themselves in fantasies and daydreams, the use them as a get away from the needs of reality. This conduct no longer solely impedes their capability to confront challenges head-on but additionally prevents them from enticing in significant pursuits.

Love for Shortcuts: Skipping the Hard Work; A predilection for shortcuts is a surefire signal of laziness. Instead of embracing challenges and working diligently to acquire their goals, lazy persons are drawn to speedy fixes and handy paths, which hardly ever yield sustainable results.

Projecting a False Image: The Illusion of Productivity; Some lazy folks task a photograph of productiveness and success, regularly the use of social media or selective sharing to show off their accomplishments. This facade can deceive others and perpetuate their personal delusions, hindering their increase and personal development.

Blaming Everyone Else: Evading Responsibility; A frequent trait of lazy persons is their tendency to blame others for their failures. Rather than taking possession of their mistakes or shortcomings, they shift the blame onto exterior factors, hindering their capacity to examine and improve.

Difficulty Finishing Tasks: Lack of Persistence; Lazy men and women regularly hostilities to see tasks thru to completion. They may begin initiatives with enthusiasm but lose activity or motivation earlier than accomplishing the end line, main to a path of unfinished duties and overlooked opportunities.

Excessive Sleep: Escaping Effort; While sufficient sleep is vital for normal well-being, immoderate napping can be a signal of laziness. Using sleep as an ability to keep away from duties or challenges can prevent productivity and influence bodily and intellectual health.

Conclusion

Recognizing the characteristics and behaviors related to laziness is the first step closer to overcoming this hazardous pattern. It's essential to recognize that laziness is now not an immutable trait but a collection of habits that can be modified via self-awareness, dedication, and a dedication to non-public growth. By acknowledging these traits and taking proactive steps to tackle them, people can damage free from the cycle of laziness and liberate their full potential.

Decisions for Life: The Two Most Important Decisions You will Ever Make in Life.

The paradox of life is that people seem to deliberate more carefully over little choices than the big ones. Before buying a car, they read all the ratings, check out resale values on the internet, and so on. But when it comes to choosing a vocation, they just sort of slide rather than decide. They slide incrementally into a career because someone gave them a job. They marry the person whom they happen to be living with. — David Brooks, The Second Mountain.

What do you want to do with your life?

Who do you want to do it with?

56 Minutes in a Probox

Sometimes back, we were doing farming...long story, and I remember when the push came to shove and we had to fold our tools. My trip to the city remains memorable. 

Our singular mission was clear: find a way back to Nairobi, the bustling urban heart, before twilight's curtain descended. The clock had struck 4 pm, and being stranded in the remote reaches of Machakos County was far from an appealing prospect. 

Stepping off the 14-seater minivan at Makutano ma Mwala, we stood poised on the roadside, a sea of uncertainty before us. Like a swift current diverting our course, a stranger seized my hand. With a Kamba accent dancing on his tongue, he inquired about our destination. Responding with the fluency of a local, I uttered, "Kithimani." Our journey veered in the opposite direction, as we began our traverse across the road, but fate had other designs.

A metallic beast, known as a Probox, materialized before us. A 5-seater on paper...but a 17-seater in reality. Peering within its confines, we noted five souls already ensconced, and the available space seemed as cramped as an afterthought. One couple hesitated, their faces a canvas of uncertainty. Our eyes collectively scanned for an alternative – an escape from the impending sardine can on wheels. Another vehicle beckoned from the wings, and we retreated to await its arrival.

Yet, choices dwindled, and time's relentless stride spurred a decision. The overcrowded Probox now appeared as our salvation. A rapid reshuffling of bodies took place – an impromptu orchestration of dimensions. Like pieces fitting into an unpredictable puzzle, each passenger found a place in this automotive mosaic.

Seated amidst the amalgamation of humanity, I observed our eccentric driver. His eyes, bloodshot like a nocturnal creature's, exuded an air of nonchalance. As we embarked on this odyssey, he seemed to declare that a single bottle of petrol would guide our way, though skepticism tugged at my thoughts. Munching on miraa, gulping down sodas, the glasses tilted at odd angles, he drove with the fervor of a jester in pursuit of frivolous delight. And one couldn't ignore the enigma of the "ng'ombe" – a yellow calf with thin stripes, an emblem that one of the drivers professed to decipher.

As our journey unfurled, another Probox emerged in our midst, a harbinger of unforeseen theatrics. Gripping the wheel with unwavering resolve, our driver's pupils seemed to consume his gaze. A temporary suspension of his miraa munching marked his attempt to demonstrate his Probox supremacy. Engaging a higher gear, our vessel took flight, an airborne marvel on four wheels.

Overtaking the competition demanded a relentless exertion of both speed and will. Our passengers erupted in a chorus of exclamations, but the driver remained impervious. An exhilarating dance with velocity ensued, culminating in an overtaking maneuver that evoked triumph, etched on the driver's countenance. Strangely, as the rival Probox fell behind, our victor conceded defeat, pulling to a halt just a stone's throw ahead. A bemused thought fluttered through my mind – what drove this duel of speed?

With fleeting moments as our currency, we lingered more at stops than in motion. Fury could have been an option, but the theater of our driver's antics kept us amused, our fear tantalizingly close to the surface. Our dance with destiny coursed on, and as we arrived at Kithimani, the time had come to alight. But the driver, bereft of change, embarked on a quest for coins. Engaged in an animated exchange with his peers, his purpose momentarily escaped him. Like a flickering candle, his memory fluttered. Yet, he prevailed, handing us our due change, a gentle pat on my back, and a parting "Nashukuru."

In a probox crammed with souls and stories, we found ourselves swept up in a 56-minute odyssey, a symphony of madness, laughter, and a driver's insatiable need for velocity, we got back to the city in one peace though.

What Next?

Meeting With The Devil.

In life it’s not a question of if you will meet the devil it’s a question of when you will have a sitting with him. What will you do when you meet the devil?

        i.            The circumstantial/gray meeting.

When Rita and Jeremy met, it was an 'aha' moment of 'where have you been all these years!' They clicked and connected. That was in a dinner event organized by Rita's employer and they had invited other firms that have partnered with them. They exchanged contacts and in a weeks time, Jeremy had made a request of meeting for coffee. One coffee happened and another…and another. Within six months they were dating and convinced they were meant for each other. Within one year they were a husband and wife after a colourful private wedding. Jeremy used to take 'one for the road' while they were dating. But, by the time they were wedding the one for the road had become 'two'. Both earned a good salary, lived in a good neighbourhood. On one Thursday evening, Jeremy came home sad, dropped on the seat and placed a letter on the table. On opening, Rita could not believe her eyes. Jeremy had lost his job. This was the first appointment he got with the devil. Consequently, was daily dates with the bottle and on that table was the devil too. He completely changed. The little support he was getting from his wife all went with the bottle………… currently, separated, Rita is filing a divorce since she can no longer withstand the physical and emotional abuse meted on her by Jeremy.

      ii.            Deliberate/Stubborn meeting

      When Adolf Hitler was convinced that he no longer needed to see a Jewish face, every action was conscious meeting with the devil in the execution of the plan to eliminate the Jews. The results were devastating. This is no different to when other leaders have orchestrated murder of other people, held on to positions of power by force, led in the looting of their own nation, these are deliberate meetings with the devil.

    iii.            Ignorant/misinformed meeting

      In the 1840s, rabbit keeping was a German practice in Australia. It was common practice amongst the colonists. Rabbits became part of colonist’s diet; unfortunately; one man had a meeting with the devil. Thomas Austin, a landowner, made an import of 24 rabbits from England and for hunting purposes released them in the wild. Austin was an avid hunter when he was in England and was disappointed he could not find anything to hunt in Australia …… within ten years of release the population was very vast that Australians could kill over 2 million rabbits without causing any significant reduction whatsoever. Today, European rabbit in Australia is considered a serious agricultural and environmental pest. The overall loss caused by rabbits in Australia is estimated at $206 million per 1 year. What a terrible desire that Austin had.

How to respond when you meet him.

      Daily in life, we will be faced with situations that will call for us to face the devil. The devil can be a desire, temptation, friend, position,……….. it could just be anything and be happen anytime when we least expect. If our lives are not based on principle, principles that have stood the test of time, the devil will easily have his way.

     Joseph meeting with the devil was a circumstantial one where Jezebel wanted to have him sexually. By PRINCIPLE, Joseph knew there are no negotiations you can have with a beautiful, naked woman's body staring at you. Its either you 'devour' or run. The devil is roaming around, moving around and about seeking a target.

      Whether circumstantial, deliberate or ignorant meeting, one has the power to overcome and make a wise choice. If you meet him by circumstance, step back. If you meet him deliberately, cancel the meeting. If you meet him ignorantly, ask first before you make a move.

Lose To Gain

Rita is not comfortable with her weight. A statement from her husband has been tearing her apart. She is determined. She is determined to regain her shape. When she met her husband, she was the curvy and adorable size. Her man derived joy to see how she received praises from peers from the way she had been able to maintain a seemingly perfect shape. She had been deliberate about, always ate right and light with reduced junk. The wedding was exotic and colourful. One year later, she became pregnant. That is where her journey with weight gain began, she lost the curvy shape, but they were blessed with a beautiful bouncing boy. She lost curves but gained a baby. Now she wants to lose the weight so that she can regain the curvy shape again.

Thomas Edison. His attitude was that every failure was astonishing. ‘I haven't failed I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work’, he said. In 1992, IBM was going to dodo way. It lost  $5 billion, which was the highest at the moment from any company. This became the turning point of the firm where the CEO who followed changed 1BMS strategy and was able to save the giant. Jack in the Box case was even trickier, in 1993 after clients ate contaminated hamburgers from the company; the results were four deaths and 175 hospitalizations. As a result, they executed stringent food measures and standards which helped the almost failing business coupled with even marketing techniques become one of the biggest food chains.

Job’s case can be one of the most significant individual losses of all times. Job lost all his belongs, his peace, his wealth, his children and his wife & friends turned against him. Nonetheless, Job remained steadfast in his faith and believed. After all the treble and tribulation, it is recorded that his fortune was restored twice as much as he had before. He again got children, four sons and three daughters. His daughters are noted to have been the most beautiful in all the land ( Job 42:10-14)

The process we undergo when we lose is not easy at all. It’s a painful process that can cause even the mightiest to fall. Only those that endure the loss, reflect on their mistakes (maintain right perspective since at times one may not have made any errors, but life circumstances happened) have a chance of making a comeback.

Why I Hate Valentine's Day.

Valentine is the most awkward day that people celebrate. I have been trying to find a place in my heart for this day, but I just can't connect with it. Where did this day come from? The story goes that, an emperor by the name Claudius II executed two men on this day. The Catholic Church resulted in naming it St Valentine’s Day. The men were martyrs. This dates back to the 3^rd century. Nonetheless, at the very same date between 13–15 February, the Roman Empire was celebrating the feast of Lupercalia. In the ceremony, the men sacrificed a dog and a goat and then whipped the women with the hides of the animals that had been slain. A historian Noel Lewski, noted that the women were drunk and naked, and they believe the ritual would make them fertile.
Fast forward,today, what happens and why do I hate this day.

     One is not genuine about their feelings. Imagine a person has not been expressive all along, they have never taken you out, bought you a gift, they have been abusive… I mean you've never felt love from them, then they pop up on Feb 14^th with lovey-dovey stuffy. This is even disrespectful, to say the least. Well, one could say they are lovers, and thus they could express their affection at such a day. I beg to differ. It's the laziest day to express it or surprise your lover. Reason being whatever the surprise you pull today, it was expected.

     The kids and the younger generation will be misled. There is this feeling that today is the day of celebrating love. For the children who have no understanding of what love is, they will have a warped mentality of Feb 14^th. In a family set up, a couple do not buy gifts to each other frequently, then a gift pops up today, mind you the last card bought in that house was Feb 14^th the previous year, same to the teddy bears, how do you think the children will interpret it? Additionally, children will not understand why most people are wearing red, hotel décor in red, ladies carrying flowers all over. They will ask questions, but they will not get answers. If they get answers, they will get the wrong ones.

     It is hijacked by the business world. Firms use Valentine's day to enhance their image and as marketing tactic. To most businesses nobody is selling love, they are actually selling items at inflated prices. In the right state of mind, when would a person pay for a hefty and inflated amount for dinner? Well, it’s only in Valentine. It's ‘allowed'. One is getting a raw deal and no value for money, yet they still make a purchase.

     Its psychologically torturing.If a lad is not in a relationship, they start feeling odd and wishful. They can make a hasty choice of getting a lover just to feel ‘okay’ for the day. If one is in a relationship, woe unto you, it’s even worse, the expectation is inflated left, right and center, your partner is expecting you to do something other people are expecting, you will definitely, most likely ,do something.

     My love, now you know why I did nothing today. I just hate valentine I cannot understand why all the reds. I am penning this from a restaurant decorated in white and red with fresh flowers. Tomorrow, they will go back to their old clothings. Please allow me not to do anything on February 14^th.