All of Us Are 'Going Through'.


Two men arguing on a bus. One had a broken arm in a sling. The other was walking with a limp. They shouted over who deserved the seat more — the one who couldn’t use his arm, or the one who could barely stand.

Neither stopped to think: maybe both of us are hurting, just in different ways.

That’s how many of us live.
We see our own pain so clearly that we forget the person next to us might also be bleeding — just in a place we can’t see.

🌊 We’re All in the Water — Just Different Boats

Your boat might be leaking with financial struggles.
Mine might be battered by health problems.
Someone else’s might be weighed down by grief, loneliness, or family breakdown.

The waves don’t spare anyone — they just hit in different ways, at different times.

⚖️ No one has the Monopoly on Hardship

Yes, what you’re going through is real.
Yes, it matters.
But so does what the next person is going through.

Sometimes we get so consumed by our own battles that we start treating others like they have no right to be tired, hurt, or stressed — as if we’ve cornered the market on suffering.

That’s not just unfair, it’s untrue.

🪞 Perspective Changes Everything

When you realize everyone is carrying something, it changes how you:

  • React to people’s bad moods — you stop taking it personally.

  • Judge someone’s success — you see it might have cost more than you imagine.

  • Compete in the “who has it worse” Olympics — because no one really wins.

🤝 A Two-Way Street

The healthiest relationships — whether personal or professional — happen when we:

  • Recognize our own struggles without dismissing theirs.

  • Show empathy without entitlement.

  • Give space for both stories to matter.

It’s not “my pain vs. your pain”.
It’s “my pain and your pain exist at the same time.”

🌱 Final Thought

We don’t get to choose whether life hits us — only how we treat people while it does.
So let’s drop the idea that hardship gives us a free pass to be careless with others.

Because if all of us are going through something, then maybe the best thing we can do is go through it without stepping on each other’s wounds.

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