Spoilt For Choice.

It was in a bash cum sleep over... after each person spoke anyone was free to make a compliment or ask a question regarding the way you know that person.Here I was making very genuine compliments.Apparently,it turned out that I was commenting after almost everyone...It had also happened that I was the first to introduce myself.In your introduction,you were to say something about your 'social development',I mean,'The Kabete question'...I mean Single or otherwise.And so I'm yet to crack the code.
'Rutinu is spoilt for choice,Please settle.Everyone is pretty until he ends up complimenting all the ladies!',one dude commented,the entire room burst out with laughter.

In another occasion someone warned me not to look at ladies with,'such kind of eyes',What!,I'm contemplating of acquiring glasses."Not everyone will understand that's the way you are,like I do,you will hear stories",The person reiterated.



This got me thinking.It made me analyze my actions,motive and the way forward.
I came to realize that the unconscious effects of not having cracked the code can be detrimental.(I want someone to confirm this).You  see a lady and thinking could she be the one (I know I'm speaking for many quiet dudes out there who haven't cracked).

You invite them for lunch,supper,breakfast,walks....without showing any intention as a way of analyzing them and when she turns out you live in two different planets you even don't tell them anything.You will be Hae-ing them when you meet on the streets.

One day,we (I'm acting as a self appointed spokesperson of all those dudes who believe in not making haste decisions) will settle,cherish my love like the world is ending tonight.Stop watching Yankee Zulu,Chipukizi and Kimondio we be watching 'cool stuff' together the likes of Brief Encounter,Casablanca,..stop shouting in the hostels but remain calm and collected,wuuii...and all those junks.I bet I'll change a lot.

Relax good people.We will love one-off, and everything else will turn out to be an outlier.

The Simple Things In Life.

I laid in a sofa at my grandma's living room,looking up  the white painted ceiling and walls.I've always enjoyed the serenity at this place because it's quiet and helped me get into deep thoughts.
My eyes got attracted at  an album-ed photo on the wall bearing some writings:

The first one had fresh romantic flowers in a vase with a quote,"Only  wise and good men can be friends  others are but companion".

The second was an elephant with a calf walking through the savannah, the calf size could allow it to walk  beneath the mom and a quote at the edge read,"We are too little to be able to rise above the difficulties well,then let us pass beneath them quite simply".

The third had two peacocks in a flat green beautiful land next to some flowery plants near a lake each headed in different directions and a quote in it read,"The greatest thing in this world is not so much where we are but in what direction we are moving".

The last photo was an elephant seated next to a red bricked building and a  squatting girl was holding it's trunk with one hand while the other touching the back of the feet and the quote in this read,"The quickest way to get back on your feet is get down on your knees".Initially I used to think it was my cousin because she was brown,only to learn it was just a photo of a non-dark.

All these took me back  in my younger days how my granny used to be caring(and she still is).
.....Always giving admonishing on what she thought was best way to live .So many things may not be working but one thing that you taught me and always holds true even in this dynamic world is the simple key tenets to live by:God first,Respect to all,Good choice of friends.
....Her meals,local,nutritious & delicious. Huuu,yummy is the word!

....the sense of humor was just wonderful.Teacher Wanjiku of today.
.....

It's the simple things in life that make the difference and create memories.
Love you Granny.Long Life.

Desiderata: Max Ehrmann.

Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.

Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.

Author Notes

Desiderata are, technically, things considered necessary or highly desirable OR something lacked and wanted.
The poem is a list of things desirable in life.

Who Is To Blame ?

I read a book,"Secrets of  A Millionaire Mind" by T. Harv Ever where he gives insights on what makes  the differences between  millionaires and the poor and middle class.

He  says that everything we physically see is as a result of Mental,Emotional  and Spiritual Input.Therefore,if something is wrong in the physical perception of it,It's as a result of everything being wrong in the other 3 quadrants.

I totally concur with this Man,If for example one has wrongly typed a document and goes to print it.The printer will exactly give you a document with errors,so it will be ridiculous to start hitting the machine,opening bolts or calling experts to come and check what's up with the printer.It has no hitch,work on the document!.

Likewise,if something is going haywire with our Finances,Career,Academic,Relationship,Society,Country...
It's the high time we realized the blame solely lies on the software that is running our Mental,Emotional & Spiritual Faculties.It could have been fed with the wrong commands.It may call for an overhaul of the program or even complete change of the same.

Whatever we allow in unconsciously or consciously will ultimately come out.The best thing I think would be to be conscious of our environment;the music,the hangout joints,the friends...somehow we will be influenced whether  we like it or not...A eagle has no business with a hen,A train has no business with a road!.


"Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things."-Philippians 4:8.

Let's feed our Emotional,Mental,Spiritual faculties with the right Program.

It's You I Want.

I'm no longer in abyss,but, standing amidst peace of mind and a dream come true.

#That we can sit together and listen to the same tune of music the likes of  Reuben Kigame,Emachichi,Don Moen, Michael W. Smith,Casting Crowns,Francesca Ballisteli, Brandon Hearthon,Tenth Avenue North,Jim Reeves....

#That I can bounce at your place and find you watching:Family Tv,God Tv,Sauti ya Rehema,Discovery Channel,National Geographic,Supersport or listening to:Hope Fm,Truth Fm,Radio 316...

#Always keeping each other on check on our spiritual warfare.

#Thinking together on how we can create God-friendly environment for all with the resources we'll be endowed with.

#That you know what is to be decent in every aspect of it;dressing,talking...

#That even in absentia I'll be at peace,just like you'll be,,knowing,we still trust each other.

#That for hangouts it will not be clubbing n like.

#That it's not the external but the internal;character,personality...We  have the potential to amass all the material things we want but let that not be our starting point.

#....


A day never passes without thinking about you,I've never met you or maybe I could.This ain't  checklist but only a wish,I understand your world may not be my world but then some convergence will always help when things are between a rock and  a hard place.

The physical eyes will lie to us but let the inner eyes n ears be wide open.

Be nice,be patient,be good it will come to happen.

Modern Fresher

Every new Experience brings out our naivety but a good learning opportunity.

Therefore it sounds a good idea to try out new things and be adventurous but all this should be calculated and repercussions should firmly be held in our minds, otherwise…

I remember how grateful I was, to one Susan, for helping me carry my luggage from admission offices to my hostel room in my first day in campus. She told me how good campus life can be, but still how nasty it is for reckless fellows…I heeded and reaped. I made a commitment to myself that I will orient first years when they come, share with them what they expect in their new life being the base of what they want to do their entire life. I did that, hope someone benefited.

But I was perplexed to share with a friend about her first semester in campus and she confessed how they were ‘life changing’:

v  Fresher’s Night

Guys got drank and everything she saw, sorry to mention, can only be seen in a hardcore movie

v  My Best Friend

Her best friend brought her a juice, she drowsed, and when she woke up she was in hands of a man, having been ‘treated’

v  Modern Perspective

A 21yrs old Lady’s logic of not being faithful to one partner, abstaining or using a condom is that even if she gets HIV, she can live with it for more than 25yrs and by the time she is 45,She will have been bored by life and ready to die.

v  Pressure to conform

Her dressing code changed to that which is acceptable to the campus and has swag.

v  Curiosity

Having never tasted alcohol she did that for the first time

…Truly ‘adventurous’

This got me thinking deeply, n you what, I’m yet to come to terms with this.

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If Today Was My Last Day...

Hallo,

I've seen the sense in learning from other peoples mistakes and experiences because I may not live long enough to learn from my own mistakes.

Brownie Ware's experience while working with a palliative care   noted the regrets   of dying people during their last days. They were ;

 1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.


2. I wish I didn't work  so hard.

This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.


3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.


4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.


5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.

When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying. 

 

>>>>>> 

When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: “If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you’ll most certainly be right.” It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?” And whenever the answer has been “No” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.-Steve Jobs.

When I shared the above with a group of friends,it was like they do things and live their lives as if they are assured of tomorrow,but we only have an assurance of now because our wishes and hopes may not be God's wishes.

Cheers.