Letter 1 to My Child; On Your Mum

Child,
When I was a young boy,before teenage,there were things I missed doing and enjoying,but as a statement goes,what you don't know doesn't hurt you.I  didn't know what I missed until I got a chance to be a little bit older  and realized,"That must have been a fun and adventurous activity".

Well,I enjoyed the freedom of doing anything I wanted to do as long as I wasn't going to bring trouble to the parents.I liked this.Unfortunately there wasn't exposure to do much,as I can see now and long for,if I had a chance.I blame no one for this,but I have resolved to give the best to you.

It's a pity to see how many rushed into starting families and they were not able to sustain them.
Their end up causing pains to innocent children via divorce,separations and all manner of violence.
I want the best environment for you,one that will expose you and help you explore all you potential

As I wrote down this thoughts,I hadn't met your mum,I was still in campus,but I made a promise to get you the best mum in this world,who will cherish and nurture to make you all that you were meant to be in this life.I know you  wonder why it took so long for you to come to this world but all this was for your benefit.We have been planning for your life.

Wait For Me Dear.

I felt like it's the end of the road for me,I lay on the ground watching the sky.'I can't wait any more'.A thought crossed.The pressure for pleasure is immense.'After all she could be the one'. Another thought.I wasn't ready for another confused quiet moments and so I choose to try something different as a relaxer.I pick a book by Kay Arthur,'With an Everlasting Love',It's just what I need at such a time.Perfect.

Christianna is a young Lady who is betrothed to Joshua,a man whom she has never met but sent his betrothal request via his servant.Because of the word that run across the entire nation of  Joshua's influence and power she couldn't resist but wait patiently.Joshua is said to be the most loved son of the king and every lady and their parents could have wished their daughters be married by him.His Love for her was unconditional...One day Chritianna met Cosmo who shows him material love,ever present for him,hugged her gently and finally overwhelmed by his romance she gives in and loses her precious fruit of purity.Cosmo then disappeared.


The trumpets started ringing.Christianna is remorseful,weeping and being haunted by her actions.She knows that it must be Joshua.Talk of fragrance and beauty that came along with Joshua,it's the most beautiful scene all those who gathered had ever seen.There came Joshua,indescribably handsome,..he entered the room to meet the bride,she was still weeping.The touch with his hands sent her shivering,it's the best feeling ever,She hated Cosmo and cursed him.Then Joshua gently opened the veil in her face,looked at her and said,'I love you Christianna,..if  only had you waited for me'.

Well, the story is an allegory of Christ,If only we can wait for him honestly adhering to his teachings and be guided by Holy Spirit rather than our flesh.
But,it got me thinking of our love relationships.We meet Cosmo who are the romantic,wealthy and great looking ladies and gentlemen of our times.All they are after is the short term pleasure of a moment then puff!,that is the last time you will hear from them,they leave us with scars.

If I seek in my heart daily to make a commitment of strength,hope and patience of not rushing for a now and then gratification,keep the best for Joshua,love them with all that I have even  before meeting them,plan for our future,pray for them...It sounds easy but practically it isn't, but it's possible.
When we meet, it will be a small heaven on earth.You were the ultimate reserve for me,and I was yours forever.When Joshua opens the veil he smile and say, "I Love you,thanks so much for waiting'...Elsewhere,the preacher,"You may now kiss the bride". Fireworks!

Gentlemen Need this...Ladies Require too.

Sometimes back the concept of tall,dark,rough and handsome was very popular among ladies,whereas the figure eight was the,'wa-wa-wa' among men.It was a narrow perspective towards hooking up with ones partner but times have changed.The celebrities were hailed and everyone wished they were their fiance',but we all know how their  lives are behind the scenes and we dread it.Men were the providers of the house,but we live in a world where your woman could be earning more than you and retrenchment is a common scenario.Emphasis on equality places us almost on the same level.

The enormous question is where has the focus shifted too?

Young informed people are no longer viewing life from a 1D perspective but rather,in fact,they are only limited by 3D,they could dissect their partners to-be even further.When we realize that life has more than what we can see and feel,we get critical and approach it from a  wider angle.The earlier we realize this the better.

So what are we supposed to be looking for(both Ladies and gentlemen) from our partners.

1.Mental Maturity.
Nobody want to stay with a person who is just  'yes-yes '..but can question my thought in a reasonable way,so as we can have leverage and synergy.Whenever we stay,even in normal interactions,with people who are just accepting what we offer,what value is being added to you and you already know what you are telling them?. They should be able to critically and analytically think and come up with solutions to problems.Simply because everyone is doing it does not mean is right,it may not apply to our situation.Let's expand our thinking capacity so as we can be of help to our partners,a popular theory suggests that on average most human being use 3-10% of their brain,this is a serious joke,I wonder what the rest we keep like inventory,is for.

2.Spiritual Maturity
Human beings are spiritual beings in human form,and therefore if the spiritual person is not there there is danger of having a numb or dead conscience.Hope no one will complain of irresponsible drinking if you met your partner in a bar or complain of adultery if you one in a multiple of concurrent relationship they were having and you were aware,The  spiritual well being is key to sustain a healthy relationship.

3.Financial Maturity
I'm sure bills will not be paid with hugs and kisses and therefore it calls for stretching our muscle to earn extra coin to sustain a decent lifestyle.

4.Emotional Maturity.
Emotional maturity is when a person has come of age in their feelings. They do not let their emotions run away with them. They can process things that happen in life, deal with them and go on. They are level headed and do not make rash decisions.

5. Social Maturity
This is being able to relate healthily with others and not just being individualistic and living in an island of our own.It's opening up our mind to learn from others too while we choose what to accommodate or disassociate with in a nice and reasonable manner.

6.Physical Maturity.
This is the least in my opinion,..this is where the tall,dark,rough and handsome falls,..the, 'wa-wa-wa' lady is.It's usually very weird for one to be 6-pack,advanced in age,physically beautiful but when they open their mouth you wish they had kept quiet.It's crucial to be physically attractive but it should not be hailed over the other key maturities that matter most since beauty easily fades.

...Made All the Difference.

I like listening to other people's perspective towards different issues in life. I get inspired when several people confirm and commend my choices. I feel bad and empathetic to listen to the ill choices that others made but I get inspired not to dare make wrong ones.

We are who we are by the choices we make and have made, I could have chosen to watch a documentary and keep the little I know about choices. The famous, "choices have consequences" slogan is very true, though those that coined this made it sound like the consequences were to be detrimental, get over that context. The consequences of our choices will either be positive or negative.

Before making a choice I consider the following;

Ø Is it in harmony with my beliefs?

Ø Will it give the desired results?

Ø What will be the worst case scenario?

If the answer to any of the questions above has doubts, I have to rethink of alternatives.

A t times, if not most of the time, a choice can even mean taking a path less taken, like one of my lecturers said, ’When everyone is going east try west’  

Robert Frost poem,’The Road Not Taken’ sums it up on making a bold move that many opt not .Whether others approve of it or not, It could be the best choice you’ve ever made.

TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood,

And sorry I could not travel both

And be one traveler, long I stood

And looked down one as far as I could

To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,

And having perhaps the better claim,

Because it was grassy and wanted wear;

Though as for that the passing there

Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay

In leaves no step had trodden black.

Oh, I kept the first for another day!

Yet knowing how way leads on to way,

I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh

Somewhere ages and ages hence:

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I_

I took the one less traveled by,

And that has made all the difference.

Heaven's Grocery Store.

As I was walking down life's highway many years ago
I came upon a sign that read Heavens Grocery Store.
When I got a little closer the doors swung open wide
And when I came to myself I was standing inside.
I saw a host of angels. They were standing everywhere.
One handed me a basket and said "My child shop with care."
Everything a human needed was in that grocery store,
And what you could not carry you could come back for more,
First I got some Patience.
Love was in that same row.
Further down was Understanding,
you need that everywhere you go.
I got a box or two of Wisdom and Faith a bag or two.
And Charity of course I would need some of that too.
I couldn't miss the Holy Ghost
It was all over the place.
And then some Strength and Courage
to help me run this race.
My basket was getting full
but I remembered I needed Grace,
And then I chose Salvation
for Salvation was for free
I tried to get enough of that to do for you and me.
Then I started to the counter to pay my grocery bill,
For I thought I had everything to do the Masters will.
As I went up the aisle I saw Prayer and put that in,
For I knew when I stepped outside I would run into sin.
Peace and Joy were plentiful, the last things on the shelf.
Song and Praise were hanging near so I just helped myself.
Then I said to the angel "Now how much do I owe?"
He smiled and said "Just take them everywhere you go."
Again I asked "Really now, How much do I owe?"
"My child" he said, "God paid your bill a long long time ago."

By:Justine-Arnon Cunanan Razon.

10 At A Glance.

1.Build Professional Brand
 What comes into your Mind when you hear Richard Branson,Wale Akinyemi,Nelson Mandela,Mc Donald Mariga, Katwa Kigen,...Whenever mentioned,you see their specialty(Who they are),their service(What they do),their audience(who they do it to),Their best characteristic(What they are known for)...that's a professional brand.
2.Discover a Strength
One cannot be a know it all,there areas one is stronger at,is passionate about and they achieve tremendously without much struggle.

3.Do a Time Diary
 Time as a resource is shared equally,yet others become more successful than others with time,track every minute.
4.Set a Goal
If one doesn't know where they are going,any place will be their destination.
Aim at something
5.Get a Mentor
Others have achieved what you want to do,they have trended the same path to easy your journey,ask,one may not live long enough to learn from his own mistake learn from others.
6.Read a Great Book
If there is something I've come to appreciate is reading a book.Just read materials of help ranging from Spiritual,Academic,Motivational,Lifestyle..but a word of caution should be taken to know the agenda of the writer,absorb what is necessary.
7.Start a Habit
'I started singing at Sunday school','I used to dismantle and assemble electronic gadgets','I used to ...'. These are common statement of people who developed a habit that turned out to be a career and an awesome lifestyle.It's too unfortunate we develop habits that end up ruining our lives.
8.Be Thankful.
Appreciate what God has done to your life.The privilege He has endowed us with,how many would have wished to be where we are but because of one reason or the other they haven't managed.Our Friends,family,strangers...
9.Find Your Why. 
I don't think we were just born to be here and go,there must be a specific reason why we were born,why we are in this setting,why we met them....Find it and leave it.
10.Leave an impact.
 They are people I meet for a first time,you like,like and like who they are.I mean nice people willing to go an extra mile for you without strings attached.'Ooh,what a world this could be if everyone was nice like you are'.

Precious Gift

Life beats us,that's for sure,and the gap between now and achieving our goals/expectations can be emotionally and mentally nauseating.

He wrote a note that bore this writing:
' Dear World, I am leaving because I am bored. I feel I have lived long enough. I am leaving you with your worries in this sweet cesspool. Good luck. (with his signature under the message)”

It saddens that it reached up to this point,though you are gone I'd wish you had thought of the following;


 What your children,friends and family went through as a result of your actions.

Whatever the reasons of taking our life could have been, you were not the only one going through the same,you were just a pin in the ocean,many others have gone through even tougher situations.

How about the after life...

This got me thinking of our actions that we do on daily basis which are equivalent to slowly committing suicide and therefore writing our suicidal note day by day.Most of the times,we are conscious of their repercussions but we choose to ignore.It will be a painful experience of wishing we chose not to,but, unfortunately it will be too late.

Life is a gift and a precious one for that matter.We keep items/gifts of people who are dear to us.
We never forget their good deeds to us,we revere  and make them reference.Why don't we respect and hold precious this gift of life?. The most expensive but priceless gift we can ever receive.It's one off gift, a temple of the Holy spirit and therefore it demands purity,purity nothing less but purity.