Three Lessons Learnt so Far.

There is a forum we meet every Sunday and a question was asked:What are the three most important lessons you've learned so far in life.

 Each person gave their own version of answers.The following were the responses in order of the most mentioned:
1.Trusting God 
It came out strongly that the believe,faith and hope in God kept people going.Hoping things will be better tomorrow is a powerful living tool.
2.Friends
The choice of who one associates with affect his/her life and will have an impact to his other spheres of their  life
3.Standing Firm
There comes a time when your No/yes remains no matter what the circumstances otherwise one will be like wind.
4 Living life to the Fullest
There are things we keep on postponing saying and waiting for good tides,'tomorrow',giving unwarranted excuses of not living the life we've always desired,but one thing always remain there will always be good and bad times,in whichever the season live as if today was our last day
5.Salvation is Not easy
Living right and as per God's teaching is and will never be easy.It takes sacrifice and commitment the world may seem precious,sweet and offering anything we would wish,but the repercussions are always dire
6.Looks can be deceiving
You go to town,hang out in campus and gash!,we've beautiful ladies,extremely beautiful.Hunk dudes with money but let this not blind us to what life there may be beyond the looks and money.The real person could be a blat.
7.Patience
It will come to pass whatever that is,just be patient,wait one more hour one more year,you'll get what you want,they will change..
8.Open Mindedness
This is thinking without the box,blowing up our mind,living out our comfort zones.Viewing & handling things from a different perspective.
9.Time
 Time is of essence what makes the difference between individuals/society/country is how they spend the 24hrs that is equal to all.
10.Networking
 The world we are in is who I know not necessarily what I know.The richness of our network will influence our the hangouts,jobs,business and the social status.'We should know People' as we like putting it.
11.Campus Life Illussion
Campus life is just ideal,it gives us no experience of the hardship there are outside it's environ.The fellowships,cheap lifestyle,theoretical knowledge...not unless one is bold enough to go the extra mile of getting to know what there is out there it might come as a big surprise once done with the system
12.Confidence
 I Once attended a powerful talk by a renown speaker and writer.During his speech he asked a question of which he was to award Four of his books,unfortunately no one got it right.After the speech it was question session,I raised up my hand and asked,'Sir,you were to give copies of your work but since no one got it right and you had decided to give out,why don't you give them to me?'
 Everyone laughed, he chuckled too and replied,'You directly went practical into applying what you've learned today,please come have them.'It takes a little wit and confidence to get what you want.Let's face those hurdles fearlessly,head on.
13.Books
There is so much we can get from other people's thoughts and experiences,download soft copy books,buy hard copies,create your own home library that your generations can draw inspiration from.

I'm sure you too could be having a summary list of three paramount things you've learned so far in life they guide your course and priority hold them dearly and pursue.
Feel free to share them out here too.

A Day's Journal in 'Nyakemincha'

You can never know how endowed you're until you get a different dose of lifestyle.

Woke up early in the morning because the thoughts of continued sleep will make me a poor fellow(I was told)This is the same place that you spent part of your life but on going back your perspective towards issues that you viewed to be okay(because you've never been subjected to a different environment) has completely changed.

What is eminent:

*Early Cohabition
Though this is still rampant even in towns,but then I can't understand how you convince a lady to come to stay together yet you haven't build a house.You only have a room extension from the parent's house.To make it worse they start getting kids.

*Lack of Basic Commodites
The absence of piped water and roads,for electricity the government has tried through the rural  electrification

*Pessimism
This is a disease,nothing positive can me noted out of what you want to do.'so and so failed do you think you are superhuman?'...

*Exploitation by Politicians
Hooliganism&sycophancy is the mode of reaching out and getting things done.For once why can't they sell policies.

*Poor performance by kids in schools
Hitting the headlines is the order of the day for extremely bad performance.

How can I be a Solution.
*Inspire & Motivate kids to study hard and explore their talents
*Indirect Influence by daring to do things differently
....

Each and every person has a 'Nyakemincha' they ought to improve be it a habit, friends and acquaintances and the society at large.You and me have a responsibility of making our world better.

A 2nd Chance,I beg.

I received the much awaited call that was a life-changing opportunity.
Unfortunately,the communication between us was hampered  by some technical hitches,at one point I said,"I'm sorry i can't get you well but,.."The caller just hanged up the phone.
I tried calling&smsing but to no avail.And that was the end of our communication.

Well,I know you could be ascribing to the philosophy that opportunity come once in a life time.

Put yourself in my situation who is to blame.Though I had a consolation that it was not meant to be,that was just a way of easing my pressure.

I'm sure most of us have ever lost an opportunity but it wasn't our mistakes or it could be our mistakes.But, I strongly believe that we should listen to the other party too.To err is human we could have lost a precious chance to work,live,love with the best simply because we  didn't give them a 2nd chance.

If God gives us a 2nd chance who are we not to.
 Jonah 3:1-10: And the word of the LORD came unto Jonah the second time, saying.......
David repented and given a 2nd chance.
Salvation gives us a 2nd chance.

It's through being merciful and forgiving that we can accommodate others even having done all manner of ills to us.One doesn't have a guarantee that divorcing their spouse will give you one who doesn't hurt like the previous.It's no wonder that one can divorce more than 4 partners in their marriage life.

Let's purpose to look at the bigger picture not the titchy issues that will deny us a chance of getting the best out of every person and situation.

Spoilt For Choice.

It was in a bash cum sleep over... after each person spoke anyone was free to make a compliment or ask a question regarding the way you know that person.Here I was making very genuine compliments.Apparently,it turned out that I was commenting after almost everyone...It had also happened that I was the first to introduce myself.In your introduction,you were to say something about your 'social development',I mean,'The Kabete question'...I mean Single or otherwise.And so I'm yet to crack the code.
'Rutinu is spoilt for choice,Please settle.Everyone is pretty until he ends up complimenting all the ladies!',one dude commented,the entire room burst out with laughter.

In another occasion someone warned me not to look at ladies with,'such kind of eyes',What!,I'm contemplating of acquiring glasses."Not everyone will understand that's the way you are,like I do,you will hear stories",The person reiterated.



This got me thinking.It made me analyze my actions,motive and the way forward.
I came to realize that the unconscious effects of not having cracked the code can be detrimental.(I want someone to confirm this).You  see a lady and thinking could she be the one (I know I'm speaking for many quiet dudes out there who haven't cracked).

You invite them for lunch,supper,breakfast,walks....without showing any intention as a way of analyzing them and when she turns out you live in two different planets you even don't tell them anything.You will be Hae-ing them when you meet on the streets.

One day,we (I'm acting as a self appointed spokesperson of all those dudes who believe in not making haste decisions) will settle,cherish my love like the world is ending tonight.Stop watching Yankee Zulu,Chipukizi and Kimondio we be watching 'cool stuff' together the likes of Brief Encounter,Casablanca,..stop shouting in the hostels but remain calm and collected,wuuii...and all those junks.I bet I'll change a lot.

Relax good people.We will love one-off, and everything else will turn out to be an outlier.

The Simple Things In Life.

I laid in a sofa at my grandma's living room,looking up  the white painted ceiling and walls.I've always enjoyed the serenity at this place because it's quiet and helped me get into deep thoughts.
My eyes got attracted at  an album-ed photo on the wall bearing some writings:

The first one had fresh romantic flowers in a vase with a quote,"Only  wise and good men can be friends  others are but companion".

The second was an elephant with a calf walking through the savannah, the calf size could allow it to walk  beneath the mom and a quote at the edge read,"We are too little to be able to rise above the difficulties well,then let us pass beneath them quite simply".

The third had two peacocks in a flat green beautiful land next to some flowery plants near a lake each headed in different directions and a quote in it read,"The greatest thing in this world is not so much where we are but in what direction we are moving".

The last photo was an elephant seated next to a red bricked building and a  squatting girl was holding it's trunk with one hand while the other touching the back of the feet and the quote in this read,"The quickest way to get back on your feet is get down on your knees".Initially I used to think it was my cousin because she was brown,only to learn it was just a photo of a non-dark.

All these took me back  in my younger days how my granny used to be caring(and she still is).
.....Always giving admonishing on what she thought was best way to live .So many things may not be working but one thing that you taught me and always holds true even in this dynamic world is the simple key tenets to live by:God first,Respect to all,Good choice of friends.
....Her meals,local,nutritious & delicious. Huuu,yummy is the word!

....the sense of humor was just wonderful.Teacher Wanjiku of today.
.....

It's the simple things in life that make the difference and create memories.
Love you Granny.Long Life.

Desiderata: Max Ehrmann.

Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.

Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.

Author Notes

Desiderata are, technically, things considered necessary or highly desirable OR something lacked and wanted.
The poem is a list of things desirable in life.

Who Is To Blame ?

I read a book,"Secrets of  A Millionaire Mind" by T. Harv Ever where he gives insights on what makes  the differences between  millionaires and the poor and middle class.

He  says that everything we physically see is as a result of Mental,Emotional  and Spiritual Input.Therefore,if something is wrong in the physical perception of it,It's as a result of everything being wrong in the other 3 quadrants.

I totally concur with this Man,If for example one has wrongly typed a document and goes to print it.The printer will exactly give you a document with errors,so it will be ridiculous to start hitting the machine,opening bolts or calling experts to come and check what's up with the printer.It has no hitch,work on the document!.

Likewise,if something is going haywire with our Finances,Career,Academic,Relationship,Society,Country...
It's the high time we realized the blame solely lies on the software that is running our Mental,Emotional & Spiritual Faculties.It could have been fed with the wrong commands.It may call for an overhaul of the program or even complete change of the same.

Whatever we allow in unconsciously or consciously will ultimately come out.The best thing I think would be to be conscious of our environment;the music,the hangout joints,the friends...somehow we will be influenced whether  we like it or not...A eagle has no business with a hen,A train has no business with a road!.


"Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things."-Philippians 4:8.

Let's feed our Emotional,Mental,Spiritual faculties with the right Program.